When I first started as Zex, submission was what I was known for. Always spreading myself (thin) for the audience. It was a role that was decided for me, rather than a choice I was given, and thus, gave me mixed feelings towards the idea of submitting to others. It’s not true submission if it’s taken from you, but I digress.

Domme first, sub later

When I was returning to work under Good Grief/DXXXRK, I felt little desire to get on my knees, and more keen to see others on theirs. Unlike the boring gentlemen in my previous life, I like to get creative when it comes to making mortals suffer delightfully. To witness those uncontrollable stomach twiches, and the biting of their own lip. To make them moan just as enthusiastically as I. I’ve always been an artist. Finding new ways to delight you via my own selfishness sparks joy. Is this something we have in common?

Submission offers a perspective 

While visiting a fellow Domme, I asked if I could crawl into her pet/sub’s cage. You can really get creative when put yourself in the unfamiliar end. See what they see. Feel what they feel. I started thinking about the animal they resonated, and how I would lay them in the cage. On some straw, maybe, and possibly with one of those things hamsters drink from. Would I keep them in darkness, or would I attach some fairy lights? Where would I set up the camera so I could watch them with a pot of tea? It’s easier to consider the other point of view once we step into the other’s shoes, or in this case – their cag.

I don’t think you can truly appreciate this craft if you don’t consider both sides of it. I don’t think anyone should force themselves completely, but a bit of ease is appreciated. You can obtain great insight and knowledge that you otherwise wouldn’t be able to obtain first hand. Just make sure you’re ready, and feel free to be picky.

Opening my books for Submission in 2026

I guess this is the part most of you were excited about. I found myself in an organic situation where I said, “Fuck it”, and finally gave in to submission from the start of a new lover, rather than as a Dominant first. It was initially overwhelming. I was at a private dungeon party, and felt unease with guests seeing that side of me, and worse, I felt uncomfortable at the risk of only being seen as submissive. Men get way too excited when they see submissive-me. Both sides of me are pretty glorious, but I know there’s something pretty incredible about sub-me.

Since opening my books for submission, the majority of potential lovers who reach out to me, are now applying to see that submissive side of me. I didn’t know I’d be so popular in this form, but I am pretty cute, so it makes sense you wanna see the transition. I still have in my terms that it doesn’t matter if you’re looking for a Submissive or a Dominant – it is you who must impress Me. I’m happy to call you Daddy as long as you behave like one.

I like being Good, so I’ll keep this up a little longer. Do you think you’ll be able to keep up with little ol’ me? *blush*

– Good Grief / DXXXRK