Whether you are new to BDSM or intimate experiences in general, a bit of nerves is normal. Who doesn’t get a little shy meeting someone they’re attracted to, eh? I’d like to assure you right off the bat that as long as you are respectful towards Me and agree to My terms, all will be well. The advice I have below is something you can carry through any first session, whether that be with me or another professional.
“I’m on the younger side”
As long as you are 23+ and send in a worthy application, I will consider you like everyone else.
“I’m on the older side”
So is my partner, hehe.
“I’m not experienced”
The more you’re in your head about it, the more stress you’re putting on yourself. As long as you know how to be a polite, you’re already doing better than most. The compatibility check will put you at ease.
“There’s something (extreme) I’d like to try”
You might feel pressure to do something big in the first session. I suggest you apply the staircase method. You have the bottom and the top, and at the very top is what you want to try. Start at the bottom, go up the steps to get there, or simply sit in the middle. For example, if you’re new to pegging, it’s better to start with hands and toys before a 9″ thrusting session. If you’re curious about bondage, you can try light bondage before something more restricting and risky like mummification. It’s just as satisfying. BDSM comes with risks, so if you try new kinks out this way, you can see where your boundary lies. If there’s something I don’t feel comfortable in executing, I’m happy to refer you to another professional who can possibly assist. I have great fellow-Domme friends.
If you’re looking to try something with Me, I’m not into anything illegal or what could be a risk to My life or sanity. I already push My mind and flesh beyond most, and I don’t want to be exploited further.
“I like BDSM, but I’m not into pain”
Submission does not always equal pain. This is okay.
“I’m not very kinky. Would you still see me?”
If you’d simply like an escort and divine company, I can do that. In regards to kink, it’s possible you might just need someone like Me to open you up.
“I like things that the average person would find gross. Can I share this with you?”
I might be cute, but I’m still a sadistic fuck. It’s really hard to offend Me with kinks. The only ones I don’t appreciate are ones that put My life at risk or are exploitive.
“I’m not familiar with etiquette in general”
A professional Domme can assist with your manners and protocol, but you should also do your own research. Emily Post’s book on etiquette is a great place to start. It’s incredibly valuable for people who have difficulty communicating, understanding empathy or are unfamiliar with social cues. Having “good intentions” is not a sufficient excuse for poor manners.
“You seem too good to be true. How do I know you’re real?”
In a world of full of AI, impersonations are on the rise. See My links at the bottom of the About Me section. Those are the only places you’ll find Me. I will never reach out to you first. If you’re still nervous, the compatibility call should help.
“Do you see Disabled clients?”
As a chronically-ill woman myself, I’m happy to consider disabled clients. Just let Me know in your application. Depending on your privacy, it might also be worth us discussing our arrangement with your loved ones.
“Can I ask about your last sexual health check?”
Only those who are approaching Me intimately can ask. I’ll most likely be the one to ask you first. There’s no shame. Let’s all be safe.
“I have triggers and I don’t want to disappoint you”
Everyone has something, and that’s okay. It’s better if you let Me know in your application, but if you need more time, please mention it in our compatibility call.
“I sent an application and I didn’t hear back. What did I do wrong? Can I apply again?”
9/10 don’t send tribute/a gift. If you can’t read or you think you’re the exception, you’ve already hit the first strike. If you address Me wrong, inappropriately, or give the impression you haven’t read the information on My site, I will ignore your application. Why should I reply to insolence? I’m in a fortunate position where I can turn down work. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for a Dominant or Submissive – you must impress Me. You can apply again, as long as you’re willing to do so appropriately. If you make an error, I expect you to correct it. I’m genuinely very grateful to all who message Me with respect.
“What if I see you in public out of a session?”
I’m happy to acknowledge you or not for privacy if we’ve spoken about it in advance. Please refrain from making Me uncomfortable outside of work. Do not make the people I’m with uncomfortable. Do not approach Me if we’ve never met.
